February12
Had a chat with a guy friend today. He’s several years younger than me and the stories he’s shared about women in his generation give me the impression that they (the women) are quite materialistic and demanding (this was deduced purely from his stories and stories from other similar-aged guys so I’m not making this conclusion solely on my own).
So he was asking about Valentine’s day and what I had planned. I said it’s just another day for me coz we’re not into V-Day, it’s just a commercialized event, so nothing special.
Then he went on to talk about women’s expectations and coz he went thru a rough break-up, he remarked “I’ve learned to really get annoyed at the saying: that’s what a gentleman should do what….or something like: you’re a guy right….” (Background story : From what he told me, he used to do lots of things for the ex, buy her lots of stuff and all that — at which I exclaimed “Wa lau! U print money ar??!”)
And the following conversation ensued :
Me : haha… well, there ARE certain things that a gentleman should do la but not to those extremes that u went thru.
Friend : unfortunately… that seems to be the norm nowadays…it’s expected…
Me : *somewhat in jest* really???!!!!!!!! how come i’m not getting treatment like that?!
Friend : cuz u didn’t insist on it…remember the old saying: ask and u will receive. hahaha.
Me : but i dun think it’s very fair wat. isn’t a r’ship supposed to be like a partnership? one party shouldn’t be doing all the giving while the other does all the taking.
Friend : *laughs* it’s fair wat… u give and i take…
Me : … before i do something, i’d try to think ‘hmmm, would i like it if someone did that to me?”… if the answer is ‘no’, then i won’t do it.
Friend : wah… ur partner is so fortunate
When i brought this up, the response i got is somewhere along the lines of: of course men and women must be equal. but why would i want you unless u treat me special?
Me : *speechless*
(Upon further consideration, this is somewhat true but of course, one must know how and when to give and take)
So I told him I hope he’s learnt his lesson. One of his replies : do not look for younger generation [women]
Me : eh? so ur target market are the older women?
Friend : calendar age is not as important as mental and biological age
Me : sure not?
Friend : isn’t it?
Me : wat if u got a gf, who looks young now (say she’s 3 yrs older), but later after 2 kids, she looks like she can pass of as ur mom 
Friend : haha… after 2 kids, i doubt that external appearances will be that important anymore. a face is just a face….it’s the person behind the face that you spend your life with.
Me : waaaaa… u sure not???? are u telling me that u dun care at all abt physical appearances??????
Friend : of course i care. my ego is important to me too….but there are other things that are more important.
Me : *speechless*
ok, I don’t know if he really believes all he says or it’s just talk only…
I hope it’s the former. Then maybe there’s hope for the male species.
But I think this is more likely an exception.
(Have a friend who mentioned that she must slim down after she has kids coz the husband has told her that, yes he knows he’s shallow like that, but his wife must be slim and look good at all times)
o_O